Life beyond codependency
Restore from within after burnout, emotional exhaustion or narcissistic relationships
Nancy Zuijdendorp
Coach & Therapist for codependency, burnout, and recovery of the nervous system and identity
Do you feel trapped in patterns of people-pleasing, adapting, or exhaustion? Perhaps after a toxic relationship, burnout, or despite years of therapy?
This is where I can help you break free from those patterns and build inner security, autonomy and inner strength. Not by treating the symptoms, but through deep healing within your body, your energy and your perception of the self.
My work is grounded in life experience. I know what it feels like to confuse love with pleasing others. To ignore your body because feeling was too much. Today, that past has become a foundation for anyone who feels they can't lose themselves anymore.
Burnout & Codependency – The Hidden Link
It often starts quietly. Years of people-pleasing, over-adapting, and pushing through, until your body puts on the brakes.
You feel drained, tense, overwhelmed.
Would you immediately recognise it as burnout?
What looks like burnout is often more than stress.
It’s the cost of years of people-pleasing, self-abandonment and boundary override, held in your body, your energy and your nervous system.
Codependency is not a character trait
It is an old survival pattern. It originated when you learned that love was something you had to work for, fight for or sacrifice yourself for. That imprint still lives within you, in your nervous system, your behaviour and your relationships. What once helped you survive now keeps you trapped in patterns of pleasing, scanning and disappearing.
My guidance helps you return to your core. Not just talking, but actually resetting. Not just understanding, but embodying. So that you no longer living from fear, but from inner security and self-connection.
You are not broken. You are shaped.
And everything that has been shaped can be rewritten.
Codependency requires more than just inner child work
That is why so many people fall back into old patterns, even after years of therapy or inner child work. Because patterns such as loss of self, people-pleasing behaviour, inner emptiness, self-rejection, deep fear or self-destruction are not “behaviour”.
They are deeply embedded in your nervous system, stored in the limbic system and intertwined with your identity. Without body awareness, regulation and reprogramming, your system will continue to do what it has always done: survive, adapt, analyse.
In my work, we go deeper. We work with your nervous system, which can learn to return from survival mode to a state of calm.
With your limbic system, so that tension no longer needs to be confused with love. And with the parts of you that were created when the pain was too great to bear alone. Not as archetypes or separate pieces outside of you, but as real voices in your inner world. They have felt, reacted, made choices, often to protect you. And even now, they still carry part of that burden.
These parts will be given a place and recognition, so that they no longer take centre stage. This will create space for you to feel your boundaries again, take your needs seriously and no longer be driven by old survival mechanisms.
Even your energy comes into play. Not as something vague, but as your own inner compass. It shows you where you are still holding back, where tension is stuck and where your truth can flow again.
We start where you are now, gently working with all that you feel, all you’ve learned to avoid, and everything you’ve had to carry.
Not to return to who you used to be, but to the moment you first disconnected from yourself.
The essence of my work
Recovery starts with what is really stuck, in your body, in your nervous system, in old patterns that once helped you survive.
I don't work with fixed protocols or spiritual ideals, but with you, the person you are. Your body doesn't lie. That's where change begins.
Codependency, burnout or exhaustion are not “mental” problems. They are tangible in your system.
That is why I work with a combination of neurophysiology, energetic recovery and body-oriented guidance.
No detours, no tricks. Only change that really sets something in motion. Not by trying harder, but by coming home to yourself, step by step.
You keep adjusting. You feel disconnected. You long for love but lose yourself along the way.
Does this sound familiar?
▸ You want to please everyone, take care of others and constantly tune in to their needs
▸ You are afraid of rejection or abandonment
▸ You have difficulty feeling your needs or setting boundaries
▸ You keep ending up in unhealthy or destructive relationships
▸ You feel tired, tense, overstimulated
Maybe you’re recovering from a toxic or narcissistic relationship. And something in you knows: real change won’t come from the outside. It has to begin within. What you’re feeling is not weakness. It’s a deeply wired survival strategy. And it can be rewired. Step by step. In safety. At your own pace.
What makes my coaching different and effective?
- Nervous system repair – you learn to feel inner security from within
- Inner work – retrieving and reintegrating all parts of yourself
- Rewriting your limbic system – breaking unconscious links between fear, pain and love
- Restoring your relationship with yourself – so that love is no longer reliant on others
My coaching is deep, body-oriented and transformative for those who are ready to stop going round in circles and truly want to recover.
From Survival to Freedom
Maybe this is the first time you’ve truly recognised it.
I am codependent.
That isn’t a weakness.
It’s the beginning of your freedom.
Because from that moment on, you no longer have to keep searching outside yourself.
You’re allowed to reclaim yourself, layer by layer.
You don’t have to understand it all.
You don’t need to fix anything first.
But if something here touches you…that might be your very first step towards healing.
You don’t need to prove anything.
You’re allowed to come home to yourself.
